You Look Fine…
I’d like to make an observation here…men do not seem to understand what the word “fine” means to a woman. When asking a guy how you look, the last thing most women want to hear is “you look fine.”
Fine is a word that is used by mechanics such as “don’t worry, those rust spots are fine.” Fine is a word mom’s use when kids fall down as in “you’ll be fine, get back up.” Fine is also a term of exasperation, usually used during a disagreement, “fine, I’ll do it Friday”, or “fine, I’m sorry, you were right” (which if said by a woman usually doesn’t mean what is said), and then of course there is “FINE” the most scary way you can use the word. This last method is more of an ultimatum than a declaration that everything will work out. Most often, this use puts fear into children and husbands…if they are smart enough to figure it out.
Now I realize that according to our old English and the dictionary the word “fine” actually means something to be of superior quality. For example, a fine wine, a fine day, fine china, or something to be satisfactory and acceptable.
The problem with this word is that it has lost its luster and become a word to indicate something that is average.
So with all the ways to utilize that four letter word today, “fine” is seemingly wrongly used by so many men.
Not to worry, I am not mad at anyone. This particular Thursday is going quite well. I suppose when this term is used towards my appearance the word “fine” is meant as in fine wine, so I will in future try hard not to immediately berate him with the barrage of “what do you mean I look fine” and accept that it is a good standard to go by.
I had to catch myself as I was just struck by the use of the word this morning after I had taken great pains (like most mornings) to make sure my work clothes looked appropriate, cute, things matched, and fit well. When I asked how I looked, I received the proverbial “you look fine.”
Well thank you.